Rabbi heather Miller

When I’m not engaged in DEI work through The Multitudes, I’m working as a rabbi to bring folks closer to a Judaism that has meaning in their every day lives. When you think of what a rabbi does, hopefully your list includes: a person you can call upon for guidance during your times of need; a person who will help you answer questions big and small; and someone who will dance with you and help you shape your times of celebration.

I’d be happy to be your rabbi. How can I support you?

Rabbinic Services

  • Premarital Visioning

    There is much evidence that premarital visioning leads many to happier and longer marriages.

    Meet with Rabbi Heather as a couple to explore the transition to marriage. We will begin with a Prepare-Enrich assessment and then together, identify the areas for focus. Each couple is different and may need different levels of support to help build a solid foundation under their marriage. We will meet 3 - 8 times and outline concrete goals relating to issues such as wedding planning, money, communication skills, religion, family of origin issues, and sex and intimacy.

    Even if you have opted out of having a rabbi perform your ceremony, you might want to speak to one as you plan your life together. 

    $150/session

  • Couples Checkup

    Every long term relationship benefits from a periodic check-in. Parenting, career, family responsibilities, health, and just life in general, impact the vibrancy of relationships. Over time, couples often lose the ability and motivation to talk about their relationship. I am a relationship champion who will work with you to recalibrate and reconnect. We will use the Prepare-Enrich assessment to highlight your strengths and areas for growth, providing a holistic view of you as a couple. We will work through exercises and develop tools that will help you communicate more effectively with each other and you’ll come away with an authentic understanding that makes a difference in how you think about and talk about your relationship.

    $150/session

  • Transition to Parenting or Step-Parenting

    The transition into parenting can surface challenges and underlying issues that couples could not have predicted. Rabbi Heather meets with couples to explore their transition to parenthood or step-parenthood. We begin with an assessment that will help us identify our goals. Each couple is different and may need different levels of support. We will meet for 3 - 8 sessions to address issues ranging from baby namings, to spiritual family beliefs, to family of origin issues, to discovering your parenting styles. You will come away with tools to create balance and set realistic expectations of each other and the children in your home.

    $150/session

  • Ritual Design, Officiation and Pastoral Support

    Rabbis bring us into celebrations and support us during challenging times. On both sides and in between, it’s important to know that you don’t have to go it alone. As a pastoral caregiver, I’m here to help you care for your spirit, your self and your soul.

    Reach out if you’re looking for support around your:

    Birth Covenant Rituals

    B’nai Mitzvah Ceremonies

    Wedding Ceremonies

  • Text Exploration

    I like to help folks connect to text in new and exciting ways. Connect with me if you’d like to book a text study with your group or organization.

    Past topics include:

    Two Faces, One Creation: An Exploration of Gender in our Text Tradition | Ammud

    Living in our Skin: An Exploration of Colorism in our Text Tradition | Ammud

    Sealed Cistern or Flowing Spring: An Exploration of Pirkei Avot | Ammud

    Racial Equity is Skin Deep: Exploring Bias in our Text | JTS Expanding the Canon

    Protecting our Leaders: Purim through New Eyes | Paradigm Project

    Reach out with the details of your program or event!

    Rates start at $400.

  • Journey into Judaism

    If you are not Jewish and are ready to explore what a Jewish identity would look like for you, I’m happy to guide your neshama (soul) through that process.